Male survivors of childhood sexual abuse

An important item in Sunday last night on male sexual abuse – they claimed that 1 in 6 males have been victims of abuse.

In this item the abusers were men, women, children, teens.

Male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Brave Kiwi guys, sharing their stories in the hope that others will seek help.

Brave men coming out and speaking about this in public.

Stuff:  Neil Sorensen’s years of abuse: ‘I had this horrible, big secret – and it was unbearable’

“People pretend this stuff doesn’t happen, but it does, and it ruins lives,” he says. “This story needs to be told, so that more people can get help.”

Sorensen, the former general manager of New Zealand Rugby, reveals the extent of his abuse in an interview with TVNZ’s Sunday this weekend.

Awful. As are the experiences of the other two.


Safe to Talk – 0800 044 334 (24/7) text 4334, or email

Rape Crisis – 0800 88 33 00 (will direct you to a nearby centre), click link for information on local helplines

HELP – 09 623 1700 – support services for sexual abuse and assault survivors

Victim Support – 0800 842 846 (24hr service)

The Harbour, online support and information for people affected by sexual abuse

Women’s Refuge (For women and children) – crisis line available on 0800 733 843

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Trust  03 377 6747 (For men)

If it is an emergency, or you or someone you know is at risk call 111.

Former general manager of New Zealand Rugby, Neil Sorensen says "I'm able to talk to guys and say, 'look, you can suffer ...

Former general manager of New Zealand Rugby, Neil Sorensen says “I’m able to talk to guys and say, ‘look, you can suffer trauma, survive, get help and still be a good person’.”

Miriama Kamo explains Sunday coverage of Molyneux & Southern

An interview with Stefan Molyneux and Lauren Southern is scheduled to be shown on Sunday tonight (7:30 on TV1).

The controversial alt-right event is cancelled. But the issue remains.
This week SUNDAY examines free speech vs hate speech in NZ

Not surprisingly there is opposition to it going to air, with threats of boycotts (probably form people who don’t usually watch Sunday).

Miriama Kamo did the interview and is fronting it. Some have suggested she shouldn’t have anything to do wit  it. She explains (on Facebook):

There’ve been calls for Sunday to be boycotted this week, because we are airing a story sparked by the alt-right duo Lauren Southern and Stefan Molyneux. Even before the story airs, we’ve had extensive and quite astonishing commentary about the content of our story, when only a fraction of it has been seen in public.

Put that aside for now. Let’s look on why we’re doing a story. As journalists, it’s our role to examine our society, to canvas a diversity of views, and to reflect who we are and who we want to be. By demanding that we close down debate and discussion on what has been a huge story, we must then ask ‘what else should we ignore, what other views should we suppress, which other stories should we turn away from?’ You may not like what this controversial pair has to say, but it forces us to confront the very core of what free speech and hate speech is all about.

At the heart of much of this furious reaction, is decency. Many people are insulted, offended and disgusted by the views of the Canadian duo. I appreciate that. However, there have also been suggestions that I, as a Māori woman, should not front this episode. I reject that. Our story this week is told by reporter Tania Page, another Māori woman. The notion that we should distance ourselves from this story is patronising. It has dominated the news agenda for over a fortnight. As an experienced journalist and as a Māori woman, I do not need protection. And, if it is seen as some sort of race betrayal, I return to the notion that no-one has seen our story yet – watch it first, and then decide.

But, more importantly, I believe in the right to have a view and to back it vigorously. I believe in protest, so I also believe that when we are confronted by views we cannot accept, it creates a platform upon which we can crystallise and refine our personal position on issues; that we can decide where we fall on the question of free speech, where it starts and ends, and at what point we decide that it’s gone too far. Our opinions and our right to express them is at the heart of the democracy that we all enjoy. And, on Sunday tonight, we canvas a diversity of views.

Watch the story, and let us know what you think.

Good on Miriama for standing firm on this.  It could be an interesting and worthwhile interview.


No Q and A today

There is no Q+A today. It’s tonight instead. They have moved it from Sunday morning to Sunday night at 9:30 pm. They are promoting it as a great move to prime time.

That isn’t prime time for me. A 9:30 pm start means a 10:30 pm finish. I’m unlikely to join them.

And it means they they don’t have their evening news maker.

So far I can’t even see what tonight’s interviews will be.


The robot revolution

In our lifetimes we have seen dramatic changes in our way of life and our way of working, largely due to the technology explosion.

Rapid advances in technology look like continuing. Automation and the use of robots is transforming many workplaces and these changes will continue to impact on the type of work people do and how much work is vailable for humans.

TV1’s Sunday has been doing a series on the changing nature of work and last night asked “What will  New Zealand’s coming robot revolution mean for your working life?

This showed examples of the sort of change that’s happening now, like fully automated milking sheds, self drive cars, trucks and trains, and automated warehouses.

Electronics has been a part of most of my working life.

My first career job after I left school was with the Post Office, as a Telephone Technician Trainee. Through that I studied Electronic Theory at Polytech. At one internal course that covered the exchange equipment used at the time, which was electro-mechanical, we were told about the future – electronic switching. I’ve been a part of the transformation to electronically driven communications.

However the Post Office was overstaffed and my actual work was mind numbingly boring. So I quit the Public Service (and because I only gave one month’s notice instead of three I was banned from working for them again).

I changed to a much more interesting and challenging job with Burroughs. I started again on electro-mechanical equipmet, adding machines, cash registers and accounting machines that were programmed with riveted pins of different lengths. I then trained on computer terminals and installed the first branch terminals used by the National Bank in Auckland. These connected to Databank by modem. This was in the mid seventies.

I changed jobs a number of times after that, usually involved in emerging technology. In the mid eighties I managed and programmed the first CNC turret punch (sheet metal) installed in southern New Zealand.

So I’ve been very involved in changing technology, often near the bleeding edge. I worked in IT before it was called IT. I introduced many people to computers and trained many people. That was last century. My work covered a wide range of emerging technologies.

in 2001 I got a new job that was more specialised – it had become too difficult to be a generalist. I’m still in that job, still in technology but a very narrowe field.

I’m aware of aspects of the technology revolution that seems to be building pace, still, but have really lost touch with the degree of change the world is undergoing.

What happens with robots and the workplace in the future won’t affect me much, as I probably only have a decade of employment left at the most.

But my children and especially my grandchildren will work in a world I couldn’t have dreamt of as a child.

The Sunday programme on the robotics revolution didn’t surprise me in that I was aware of the capabilities of electronic machines, but it was a bit of a shock to realise how much robots are already taking over many workplaces, and how that could dramatically change work opportunities in the future.

Sunday: Somewhere to work (15:02)