Rape culture

A post from Queen of Thorns at The Daily Blog explains Rape culture: we’re living in it, and then follows with:

The first step in fighting rape culture is acknowledging it exists.  The second is pointing it out so others are forced to see it.  The third … I’ll figure out once we get people even to step one.

I know this post won’t end rape.  But maybe it’ll pull another thread out of the rape culture tapestry.  Maybe it’ll mean one rape joke at the water cooler gets called out.   Maybe it’ll stop one “friend” making light of an assault.  Maybe it’ll make one guy think twice about how hilarious it is the way his buddy always hits on the really drunk girls.

‘La Grand Fomage’ comments:

Firstly, I want to state that I think rape is an appaling crime committed by cowards.

That said…back of the envelope calculations show me the 99.9914% of the NZ male population are not rapists and have, most likely, never ever entertained the thought of raping someone.

I disputed that:

I challenge you on 99.9914%. I think rapists are a small minority of males (and it should be said a very small minority of females), but I’d be very surprised if the minority is that small.

And there are many more men, possible a majority, who aid rape by:
– being an active participant in the rape culture
– passively ignoring rape culture

Both active and passive in the rape culture can encourage those who actually rape, and it doesn’t challenge their behaviour.

This is similar in our violence culture where some are violence but many more encourage violence or do nothing to discourage violence. And there are obviously significant overlaps with rape and violence.

Bullying is another part of these damaging cultures.

I’m a passive in this, all of us are to varying extents at times, it’s simply not practical or wise to always stand up against these cultures.

But I also do sometimes actively challenge. I’ve done it on blogs and have been sometimes criticised for that.

And I’ve noticed that if one person speaks up and challenges and holds their ground you will often see others start to join in the challenging.

This is harder and riskier in real life social situations. But it is also necessary if we are to confront these nasty and damaging cultures.

UPDATE: For an example of proof of the culture follow this thread on Kiwiblog (where I raised the rape culture issue):